6 Do’s and 6 Don’ts of Truly Successful People

by Robert Rizzo | Twitter, Facebook,

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Never let the fear of striking out get in your way.
George Herman “Babe” Ruth

Do you ever wonder why some people are more successful?

This weekend I decided to upgrade the RAM on my Mac Mini. It’s getting a little up in it’s years and I hoped to buy a little extra life for it.


So first I made the obligatory search on YouTube for the how-to video.

After finding a thorough overview and watching it through a couple of times, I felt confident I could tackle this upgrade even though it might be a little challenging.

I collected the appropriate tools and laid everything out on the kitchen table where the operation would be performed. As a former systems administrator, I’ve seen the inside of plenty of computers, so this seemed easy enough.

But from the beginning things didn’t go as planned.

Pry, pry again

The casing was a little more challenging to remove than I’d expected. But I don’t give up easily so I persisted according to the instructions in the video.

After several tense moments, I was finally able to pry the casing free and the rest appeared to be easy enough. Remove the wireless antennae. Pop the power connector. Just 4 screws and we’re golden.

Screws removed, old RAM out, new RAM in. No problem. Four screws in, connect power and attach antennae.

The test

Now for the test. Power up. Apple logo, good. Blue screen, good. More blue screen. OK. More blue screen. Not good.

So what should have taken thirty minutes turned into 3 hours of work without success, followed by a night of restlessness thinking about how I fried my computer.

But this morning I decided to reflect on the virtues of my failure.

I started the project with good intentions. My goal was to save our family the expense of a new computer and extend the life of my existing computer. And I did a reasonable amount of research considering the risk involved. It just didn’t work out.

You are the proud owner of …

So now I own a MacBrick. Thankfully, I recently stopped storing important files on my hard drive and started using Google Drive and a couple of other Cloud spaces. And there’s still hope that I’ll get the machine up and running.

In the mean time, I went out and picked up a new laptop. I got a killer deal and I’m enjoying my new found mobility.

I could’ve continued to beat myself up but I decided to shake off the mistake and move on.

I’ve learned the quality that distinguishes many successful people is not how they win, but how they lose. They’ve learned to turn their failures into successes.

Six do’s and six don’ts of successful failures


  • Beat yourself up.
  • Rehearse the scenario over in your mind.
  • Use failure self talk, i.e. I’m so stupid.
  • Tell all your friends what a screw up you are.
  • Live in fear that you are doomed to failure.
  • Stop trying.


  • Get back up.
  • Try again.
  • Review your previous successes.
  • Volunteer for an innovative project.
  • Remind yourself that a failed attempt doesn’t make you a failure.
  • Chalk one up to learning.

Failure is  a necessary step to innovation and success. No one succeeds 100% of the time. Click to tweet this

Have you recently bounced back from a failure? How can you help someone else bounce back?


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