Do You Give a $#^&?

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This morning I was thinking about giving.

Which is what I do most of the time.

How to give…

when to give…

why to give.

Then I started thinking about why people don’t give.

And I realized it’s often because they just don’t give a shit.

I know because there was a time, not that long ago, when I didn’t give a shit.

I wanted to give a shit but somehow there was always something more important to think about…like me.

It’s about priorities

Helping other people wasn’t high on my list of priorities.

But at some point, I realized that no matter how much stuff I did for myself,  I still felt dispassionate and unfulfilled.

So I thought, “Maybe I should try to give a shit.”

Keep in mind, this wasn’t natural for me…and often still isn’t.

I had to work at it.

I decided the first way I could show people I gave a shit, was by listening to them.

I wasn’t born a great listener but I believe you can acquire the skill through practice.

I’d improved  over the years, but I still had a hard time listening to what I thought was idle talk.

You know, all that non-business, personal crap that didn’t help me meet my goals.

But with some effort I was able to throttle back and allow myself to spend time with people between projects and meetings.

I started asking people about their families, their hobbies, their health.

And they opened themselves up to me.

They are people too

I quickly realized these people all had real life joys and pains just like me.

They struggled with significance and passion and self-worth just like me.

And the more we talked and I listened, the better they seemed to feel and so did I.

What I learned was people just want to know that someone sees them, that they matter.

By listening, I affirmed their value to them in some small but meaningful way.

So I decided to take my “giving a shit” to the next level.

It wasn’t like a great epiphany, I did ‘t see a flash of light, I just knew that I needed to give a shit and how I would do it.

The next level

I decided to do small things every day to help other people succeed.

A lifestyle of compassion is made up of lots of small seemingly insignificant acts of kindness and an occasional great deed.

Sometimes the person knew I was helping them, other times not.

But at the end of the day, no matter how good or bad, I could look back to that moment of benevolence and say it was a good.

Many of you are doing things to help other people right now but you do it to get something or you do it out of obligation rather than compassion.

You’ll never experience the rewards of giving if you always expect something in return or you do it out of obligation.

So how can you be more selfless in your giving?

Be intentional

Start the day planning to give a shit and you will be amazed at the number of opportunities that present themselves.

You can’t help everyone, but you can help someone.

Now you probably wonder why I decided to insert profanity in this post.

The reason is it’s dirty and makes some people uncomfortable.

No shit.

Here’s the deal, giving isn’t tidy and clean either. And it is sometimes uncomfortable.

It requires us to get our hands dirty occasionally. It involves those messy little things we call emotions.

That’s the real reason most people don’t give a shit.

Because it’s safer, not to.

Take a risk

Giving requires risks.

But they’re the most rewarding risks you’ll ever take.

You’ll never regret giving. You’ll always receive more than you give.

Take a look around you today.

There are people everywhere that need your appreciation, affirmation, comfort,  and laughter.

They need you to give a shit.

Will you?

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